Healer Words is a free tool to help anyone feel better about life
or oneself, with phrases that one may find some kind of empathy,
belonging, comfort, motivational, etc.
This tool is offering right now phrases that are been
called Healer Words. They are shuffled and showed one by one. You may reload
the page or push the button above to get new Healer Words. It is free and the
objective is to help you feel better to, then, achieve your goals.
That is the reason that Healer Words was born. Healer Words will
be updating to bring short phrases that may heal your "soul" and "heart".
In the text below this point you may find answers that will give acceptance for your
search about motivational, self love, depression and self-esteem.
Everyone that has lived a bit knows how life can be hard sometimes, and
sometimes, this times, seems to take an eternity to pass, narrowing our perspective over
the future, making us forget "good" things that happened, happens or will happen in life,
losing empathy with other and even ourselves.
Like Eddie Harmon-Jones, Tom F. Price and Philip A. Gable said in
The Influence of Affective States on Cognitive Broadening/Narrowing:
Considering The Importance of Motivational Intensity:
"Decades of research suggested that positive affective states broaden
cognitive processes, whereas negative affective states narrow cognitive
processes."
The motivational word had been demonized to the point that people
feel ashamed even to search. Motivational is a tool/technique used in a lot of ways that consists
in give, one, reasons or "strength" to achieve his/her goals. Some business companies try to
employ this techniques to achieve their goals with their employees, like described in the journal:
ASA University Review, Vol. 8 No. 1, January-June, 2014.
There is no reason to one be ashamed in search of a way for him/herself to feel better over oneself and
to help the same. Self love is a hard thing to comprehend, like can be observed that there are
a lot of ways that is employed this term.
Self Love
The human being is an animal conditioned to affection and it is not rare to see
people around us or even ourselves "doing things for other ones", trying to be
accepted by the group or not feel so "alien" to those around. There is no problem
in accept this conditioning of the human being, it is usual. The problem about
that, is that, in this journey of "being accepted by others", one tends to forget
about the "self", self love and self respect.
Like Alasdair C. MacIntyre says in Dependent Rational Animals: Why
Human Beings Need the Virtues:
"Dependence on others is of course often recognized in a general way, usually
as something that we need to achieve our positive goals."
In this process that was described, it stands easy to understand the "emptiness" that
one builds for him/herself. In this process of ignore the self makes one think,
usually wrong, that he/she is being useful to another, even used, just because is useless to
him/herself. Losing empathy for self, and, of course, to those around.
Once one arrives at this point, the point where one loses empathy for him/herself, and,
in consequence, for the ones around, doing things just to seem "like" our "friends",
we can remember what Lippit, J said about friendship, regarding
Kierkegaard, in Cracking the mirror: on Kierkegaard’s concerns
about friendship:
"Kierkegaard’s endorsement of the ancient idea of the friend as “second self”
involves a common but misguided assumption: that friendship depends largely
upon likeness between friends."
Because of this misguided assumption about friendship, that even in the "biggest
party", surrounded by people, friends or not, one tends to feel loneliness, a sign
of depression, and, if you think about social medias consumption, you can
realize that loneliness is more about the absence of oneself then in the absence of
other ones.
Depression
As we could see in the later title, not only is easy to find "justifications"
about one's behavior among "friends", as it stands easy to imagine a measure
over the self depredation. This attitude, sometimes, assumes the form
that the only time that one "thinks in him/herself" is when doing something
"bad" to other one, in a kind of freedom's scream, where shows the lost of
empathy to other ones.
This situation provokes a lot of damage to self-esteem, to the point that is left nothing
good to be expecting for. This damage in the self-esteem causes commonly reactions
reflecting in depression and other social problems. Knowing that the idea of
emotions having "lows" and "highs" are imaginary, we could turn it to true just for explanatory
purposes. If we see life as an eternal repetition of oneself, like an eternal "falling" in
the direction that one self set or was throwed at, we could use an physics's law that James
B. Hartle used in Theories of Everything and Hawking's Waving Function of the Universe:
"Everything falls in exactly the same way. The regularity is universal. No exceptions!"
Usually is tried to separate the development's reasons of depression, where
there are genetic reasons and external reasons. Impossible is to deny that both are true,
both exists, but both have one thing in common, the own subject. It's very hard,
to not tell impossible, to measure how much damage the self-esteem of one person can hold
till it starts "falling" in the "low direction", or very much naive to tell the "right amount" of
damage that one should supports. The reasons that can trigger this "falling" are many, and
Shravam Paswan enlisted some in the journal Depression - Symptons, Causes,
Medications and Therapies, that are: a serious loss, chronic illness, difficult
relationship, financial problems or any unwelcome change.
Self-Esteem
The self-esteem is of summarily importance in life, the capacity of
one think in his/her wishes and find "strength" to achieve their goals.
We could use as evidence that people developing or with depression or
low self-esteem loses their empathy with the ones around, looking what
Nicholas Emler told in Self-esteem: The costs and causes of low
self-worth:
"... the idea that many children, rather too many, are now growing with a sense
that they have no value, and that their damaged sense of their own worth in turn
causes them to do violence to themselves and others."
The study showed its relationship with young people, but is easy to see this
"anger" and "hostility" with others and oneself in adulthood and even later on.
So we can assume that this posture is not only acquired in childhood, but can,
too, be acquired later on or carried from since childhood. As showed in the
depression's title, we could see that it and low self-esteem can
be acquired by many reasons, genetical or outside events,
that triggers them. Knowing that this behavior tend to be consistent, repetitious,
the behavior of self-depredation, we will put it into the scope of eternal "falling",
and add to it a "bad", bad falling.
Realising all that was said till now, we can see how a person can "play" against
him/herself, where I like to highlight in social acceptance.
The one that "puts" him/herself in that direction, or is throwed at it, usually
don't realize the effects that will bring to self, "falling" in the inertia,
Newton's first law of motion. Understanding that the subject may not have "strength" to
self took off this "falling's direction", because of low self-esteem, depression,
the own subject may need an external trigger/force to change/stop the falling's direction.
That is when this idea, Healer Words, was born. I've made this tool to help others
to get at least a "glimpse" of strength to change/stop this falling, and how this tool has a
"good face", I must ask you to use it carefully. The use of motivational may seem
harmless, but it may provoke addictiveness, narrowing the perspective. Like the authors
already cited before said in The Influence of Affective States on Cognitive
Broadening/Narrowing: Considering the Importance of Motivational Intensity:
"We posit that narrowing occurs during affective states of high motivational
intensity to aid organism in acquiring desirable objects or avoid aversive ones."
"If there were ever a magic bullet that could transform a young person's life it would be
a pill coated with self-esteem. This powerful yet fragile quality is the key to the
future for a teenager."
(Katz, 2000, p.7)